Active Listening to Help Improve Relationship
Active listening refers to the process by which a person has that listening skill and is able to develop a form of communication that will allow him/her to reach out to another person by fully hearing what that person is trying to say. For a couple to achieve a long term relationship, it is vital that they communicate and listen in a meaningful way.
When you allow time for the other person to speak, this is already indicating that you will also take effort to refrain yourself from arguing your case while the other person is stating his/her position or to resist the urge to interrupt and cut off the other person speaking, and, therefore, when you do these, you will have more chances of listening well to the person speaking and understanding what he/she is driving at.
Allow yourself to be in the other person’s shoes
In a dialogue conversation, to be an active listener is to see yourself in the other person’s shoes, putting more importance on the other person’s emotional needs and, in this way, you will have the opportunity to understand the other person’s perspective.
Don’t jump to conclusions
When you are in the middle of a dialogue with a person, try as much as possible to avoid making final judgments on the other person because this indicates that you already have a pre-existing belief about the person and that blocks you from doing an active listening and, therefore, you just have to avoid this negative thought by clearing your mind of this preconceived belief and instead focus more on positively resolving your relationship issues.
Take time to inquire
When you have given sufficient time for the other person to speak up, now is your time to inquire on issues that you need to clarify, but see to it that when you inquire it is not accusing the person and when the person answers your queries, listen carefully so you can understand the truth of his/her statements.
Rephrase what the other person says
It’s not a negative way if you rephrase what you all heard from the other person because you are just confirming whether you heard it all right and by rephrasing what the other person says, you communicate back the points he/she has made objectively and, in doing so, you have understood clearly the other person’s point of view, which is still part of active listening. Being an effective communicator means you are also learning how to listen just as much as you need to learn to speak, so that when you are in a dialogue to resolve a relationship, by focusing on what the other person is saying will actually allow you to put yourself in a good position to understand more the situation and this is a result of listening correctly, which means that you are learning more on the issue concerned.
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